20 Apr How to Have a Good Day
“How we spend our day is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
— Annie Dillard
Do you feel like every day is blurring into the next? Do you feel like you’re bad days are outnumbering your good ones?
How can you set up your day for success when our lives have been completely unhinged?
Back in 2017, I read, How to Have a Good Day by Caroline Webb. I pulled the book off the shelf earlier this week to remind myself just how to have a good day!
According to Webb, someone who’s having a bad day is usually in a defensive mode, overreacting to circumstances, often feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands.
Someone who’s having a good day is usually in discovery mode. We look at events around us with clarity & opportunity and are productive in moving towards our goals.
While having a good day doesn’t mean it won’t be free of challenges, rather she says you good day is defined when you can answer these three questions.
- Did you spend your time on things that matter?
- Did you support others to do a good/great ob?
- Did you feel more energized than deplete at the end of the day?
With just a few tweaks to our behavior we can also set ourselves up for a good day!
Here are a few of her tactics:
- Set an intention for the day. Make a list of all the actions you want to take, the people you need to contact and the work you want to complete. Now figure out: What matters most? Schedule time in the day to go on “airplane mode” to get free from distractions so you can creatively focus on the most important task at hand.
- Monitor your day and focus on one task at a time. Easier said than done! When requests are racing towards you, examine first whether this demand will help you move towards or against your goals. Since we all know distractions are inevitable, think about the types of potential interruptions and plan accordingly. Emails for me are the ultimate distraction so I have my assistant read my emails, take care of tasks that we have previously discussed like coordinating meetings, or responding to support tickets so I can focus on the bigger tasks that should have my attention.
- Notice three delights and share them with someone at the end of the day. Webb suggests we take advantage of what’s called a “Peak-End Rule”. We usually only remember the peak of an experience and how we ended it. If you can end your day focusing on delights and visualize what went right, we’ll remember that day into being an overall positive experience, which will give us the confidence to continually have better days because they will usually always end on a high note. When you share your experience with someone else it will further engrain that positive memory in your brain. I’ve run seven marathons and even though running 26.2 miles was brutal — (esp mile 14) because the finish was so overwhelmingly positive, I kept on signing up for more marathons.
Each day we have a choice. We can let events dictate our day or we can take the initiative, be proactive and intentional. Be harnessing the power of behavioral science, you too, can have a good (if not great) day!
Download a free chapter on her web site: https://carolinewebb.co/
Now go out and have a good/great day!
“We miss a big opportunity if we simply let the day happen to us.”
— CAROLINE WEBB
“No matter what the situation, remind yourself “I have a choice.”
— DEEPAK CHOPRA
“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible.”
— DEEPAK CHOPRA